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Where Has Our Gut Feeling Gone?

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What alienates us from our gut feeling as parents?

👉Traumatic or disrupted birth experiences or health system interactions that leave us feeling disconnected from our bodies and our babies

👉Social structures that prevent us seeing the breadth of normal infant behaviour before we have our own babies

👉A pervasive sleep training culture and lack of access to quality resources around how to make co-sleeping safe

👉Individualistic culture that leaves parents ex…

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Things they don't tell you about motherhood #2739 (and 10 things that help)

Anger

I have never felt so angry in all my life as in the last two weeks.

I'm certainly not immune to anger, but it often passes pretty soon. Until the last fortnight, the worst bout of anger I've had in recent years was the week I spent writing my book chapter on anger (funny that).

This time though, it's been epic. I didn't have a blue with my partner, and nothing particularly awful happened, but every tool in my tool-belt has been called on to avoid throwing the child I love most in the world acr…

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How to Set Boundaries On Visitors (Without Sounding Ungrateful)

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When you have a baby, visitors can be a blessing or a curse. Here are some ideas on how to set boundaries around visitors during the time when your needs are just as high as your baby's. This is an area where your partner or support person is vital in enforcing your agreed rules - healing post-birth, feeding a baby and maintaining any kind of adult conversation is hard enough without having to get up the courage to tell your mother-in-law it's getting late and time to leave.

  1. Set up a time for…

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Reclaiming the "nap trap"

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Ever heard mums bemoan their baby's superhuman ability to fall asleep in their arms, yet wake the millisecond they are transferred to their cot? Maybe your baby falls happily asleep while feeding, only to wrestle their way back to the nipple like a little piglet if you dare extract the breast from their mouth? If baby prefers your body to their mattress, you're desperate to "get something done", or believe that your baby is out to make sure you never do the dishes again,  it's worth getting into…

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